In the wake of all the shit with JKR and the awful bathroom debate coming back up again, let me just say, as one trans man to others:
We need to stop with that shit where we post pictures of buff, post-transition trans men and say ‘Well terfs wouldn’t feel comfortable having him in the women’s bathroom, would they?’ as some kind of ‘gotcha!’
Because the argument that these hyper-masculine looking people shouldn’t be in the women’s bathroom is exactly the kind of shit that contributes to GNC and non-passing trans women being in danger. You may be well-meaning in doing so, but all you’re doing is perpetuating the idea that there should be a ‘you must be *this* feminine to use the toilet’ bar for trans women to reach.
I know a lot of trans women have said this. We need to listen to them. We need to do better by our sisters.
Now more than ever.
Trans men are not sticks to beat TERFs with
and when you try, you’re hitting trans women on the backswing